I was given lots of good advice when I was young. Like many young people, I didn’t listen or that they were cool. Now I’m older, my parents are the coolest people I know. In 2019 in 2020, when I endured a traumatic divorce, then had to ensure months alone in lockdown, locked away from the world, life became too much to handle. It had finally beaten me.
My father got me a ticket from England where I had worked for almost 30 years, back to Northern Ireland. He put me into therapy, set up a gym membership and got me books on emotional intelligence, mindset and faith to rewire my brain (while mum provided the valuable hugs and delicious Indian home-cooked food).
It allowed me to rebuild, heal and lead a newer, different and better life. I will never forget that kindness and somehow, enduring those painful experiences, has made me a better person.
When you endure any trauma, years later you gain clarity. I’ve met many men who have been through similar struggles to mine. They didn’t have a father or if they did, the father didn’t care enough to talk to them. Many now have drinking problems, or are addicted to prescription drugs. They never heal themselves, carrying around untreated trauma.
I know how lucky I am, which is why I'm always over the top in terms of charity work, giving and supporting others.
Thank you Dad for making me a better person.