Business Lessons Learned From Divorce, Dating and Falling In Love

I was interviewed on BBC Radio yesterday, it was a joy to share my thoughts with presenter Daisie Belle about the power of vulnerability and my journey over the last 3 years. In addition, I was interviewed by Oriana Rosa Style at Fortune magazine a day earlier and have Forbes commentary coming out soon.

Before 2020 lockdown, 1 in 5 people had mental health problems. During lockdown 2 in 5 had mental health challenges and now it’s 3 in 5. We live in a world of constant distractions and problems. This affects business performance, with reduced sales and reduced profits.

So, what can you do?

Create a vision board. Men and women often have different vision boards.

Women talk about family, loved ones, dream holidays, things that deeply matter. Men often have Aston Martins, £50m yachts and at least 1 Kardashian.

I’m not saying you shouldn’t dream big. By all means, be ambitious but make it achievable. When you have a great purpose, you can achieve it faster. You can learn more about vision boards by clicking here.

When you make love a priority in a relationship, it has a better chance of success. In business, when you serve your clients and are there to make their business better, and help them succeed, you’re more likely to succeed.

Online dating is a nightmare. Someone will pretend to like you and then ghost you. You get stood up on dates. You invest a fortune on travel and drinks not knowing what the outcome will be. Things move smoothly and then, unreasonable demands are made. Business is no different. Reading philosophy from Seneca, Confucious, Plato and Epictetus help you control your emotions better. Combine this with a vision board and you are going to cope better.

When you get divorced, you find out quickly who your real friends are and the answers often shock you. Divorce and relationship breakups mess with your head and wellbeing. Sometimes you get trapped and can’t find a way out. Pivoting isn’t easy. Sometimes, the first pivot doesn’t work and you have to try repeatedly. Create a top 20 solutions list when things go wrong. The first 5 or 6 answers are easy. Then it starts to get challenging. The discomfort zone is where your best solutions exist.

It’s okay to feel lonely. It’s okay to be scared. It’s not okay to do anything about it. There’s never any shame in asking for help, especially for most men who often drink themselves into a stupor than ask for help. Getting a new perspective, often a new idea, is never a sign of weakness. In fact, it’s a sign of courage.

Get in touch if you want to get better results in 2023 for yourself, your business or have me speak at your event.